As I have become more confident in my recovery, I am less ‘embarrassed’ that I have anorexia. Along with that, I feel more comfortable talking about EDs especially my personal experience with Eda. So, I think it is time for me to tell my own story. It will obviously be extremely condensed, but I think the story behind Eda is important.
Growing up, I had always been thin. I never really had that awkward phase in middle school with the chubby cheeks and pot belly. (Of course I had an awkward phase- thanks to braces, but just not with the baby fat). My parents are both very active and healthy and exercise daily. I always enjoyed running and playing sports throughout my younger years and kept active as well. The first ‘bullet’ was genetic since I am extremely Type A like my parents and very avid about exercise and fitness.
Junior year of high school, I joined a gym after my tennis season had ended so that I would have a treadmill to run on as it was getting cold outside. I loved it! I started going to the gym every day after school. I mean I could run 7:30 min/mile for 6-8 miles every single day! I even began realizing that I could run and even ride the stationary bike or take a cycling class, along with strength training. Looking back now, I have realized something about my dedication to my workout routine. I fell in love with the running because I knew I was good at it, it gave me confidence and control. During this time, I was being extremely controlled in a very unhealthy high school relationship, so I found my own control over my life through running. I was so (truthfully) brainwashed that I did not make this connection at the time. I would never blame one person or thing for Eda, but this was the first bullet into the gun.
Despite me overzealous exercise, I ate a good deal to replenish my body. I had stable relationships with my friends and worked my gym time around my social calendar and school activities. I definitely took the exercise way too far, but I was still fairly healthy and mostly without Eda.
The trigger to the gun was college. I had come from a small private school, graduating with 66, to a large public college with 18,000 students. My mom was my absolute best friend in high school and actually helped me so incredibly much when I finally ended my toxic high school relationship. So, it was really hard to leave her and my family and into a very different situation. I continued my exercise routine in college, but on top of the strenuous exercise, I was eating about half as much. The dining halls did not have the best or most exciting options for me, so I began eating less and less without really noticing. However, when my parents visited me about a month after I had been in school, they both noted that I looked a lot thinner. I knew this and tried to increase my intake, I wasn’t ‘proud’ of my thinness, yet. But as time went on, I kind of started liking the attention I was getting. I was at a huge college with so many pretty and skinny girls, I wanted to be the skinniest if I couldn’t be the prettiest.
Spring semester of freshman year, I started skipping meals. Wow! I had such a willpower, I could not eat until about 3 or 4 PM without getting that So this continued, along with continuing my exercise obsession, and I began eating less and less.
That summer it kept getting worse, I lived at my beach house with my mom with my sisters and dad coming on the weekends. I worked on the beach all day, which allowed for me to easily skip lunch without it looking really weird. I got comments about “needing a cheeseburger” while in my bathing suit. Eda smiled. Since I was extremely undernourished, I was a monster. I can never forgive myself for how I acted towards my mom. It makes me sick to think about, but she and I know now it was Eda speaking, not AG. AG was starving.
Now to sophomore year, I moved onto my sorority hall in a room all by myself. When shopping for my room, I talked my mom into buying me a scale so that I could “make sure I didn’t lose any more weight.” Hahahahhahahaha or weigh myself 5+ times a day. Living alone also helped so hide Eda. I was still hardly eating and would use coffee throughout the day to keep myself going. I was getting more people worried about me but I kept telling myself I didn’t have a problem! I just didn’t really need
Spring semester of sophomore year, a guy started texting me and wanting to hang out a lot. I really liked him and we had fun together, but Eda knew he would get in the way. We started dating, but I always kept my distance, he would mess up Eda’s plans for me. That summer, I went to Barcelona for a month, and Eda talked me into breaking up with him. He just “wasn’t right for me and too over bearing.” Once I got home, I was a monster to my family again and honestly a misery to be around. AG was absolutely starving and Eda didn’t like my family trying to get me to eat more and exercise less- NOT apart of her plan.
I moved into my house with 3 roommates junior year, and I hit my peak. Since I was no longer on campus, I would spend all day on campus with maybe one protein bar to sustain me. Dinner was always the one meal I would kind of eat, but dinner started becoming steamed vegetables. Everyone was worried. I was at my lowest weight of about 94 lbs at 5’5.” I had no energy and was completely isolating myself from absolutely everyone.
After about a month and a half into junior year, I realized that I am so lucky in my life, but I needed help. My mom came to see me at school- we had dinner and talked about everything. Along with my decision to get help, I knew that my previous boyfriend was someone I needed back in my life. He was actually perfect for me, so supportive, fun, and sweet, and I knew that Eda had driven me away from him. So along with recovery, he was something else I needed.
I researched therapists in the local area for ED and happened to find one who was extremely specialized in eating disorders in the larger city about 45 minutes my school. The same day as my first meeting, I also got back together with my boyfriend and told him everything.
That was last October. I never thought I would be where I am now, but recovery is possible and I feel that is so close. This has been the most difficult yet rewarding experiences of my life. Absolutely no one can understand what it is like unless you go through it, and if you do, you can relate in an amazing way. I read other people’s stories, and I feel as if it was exactly my own. I know this was long but honestly I feel like I left out so much of my background. Soon, I will blog about my recovery journey too!